101 in 1001

I'm super excited to be participating in the 101 goals in 1001 days challenge. I know it's going to be tough to complete them all, but I'm up for the challenge.  I've created another blog just to keep a proper record of everything I'm doing. If you would like to check it out, please visit Richins 101. Now, I'll definitely be posting many of my accomplishments on this blog as well, so don't worry (I'm sure it would have kept you up at night). There are too many fun ones not to share as part of my every day life. Wish me luck and if you feel so inclined, join me in finding 101 of your own goals to accomplish in 1001 days. If you just can't think of 101 things, you can check out Liz, who is the founder of this challenge. She has a support group going on and everyone has a link to their own list. Once I got going I actually had to start eliminating items because I kept thinking of more and more. But lets be realistic...I'm only one woman...I can't do everything!

101 Goals:

1. Finish painting my house

2. Put hinges on TV drawer front & touch-up paint

3. Refinish old green couch

4. Recaulk tub & sink in master bath

5. Design backyard landscape

6. Regrout the kitchen floor & seal it

7. Blow up a picture I've taken to display in the house

8. Stain the front door

9. Deep clean the entire house

10. Install doorstops behind each door

11. Read 3 religious books

12. Read 3 "fun" books

13. Read 3 classical books from my collection

14. Read scriptures at least 4 times per week

15. Finish the B.O.M. (again)

16. Finish the old testament

17. make wall hangy with The Family: A Proclamation to the World & pictures of the family

18. Host 2 scrapbook/quilting/crafty days

19. Learn more about photography through books & practice

20. Get Photoshop Elements & learn how to use it

21. Blog at least once per week

22. Learn to crochet around baby bibs & blankets

23. Make a recipe book with pictures

24. Put together wedding scrapbook

25. Scrapbook through 2006

26. Make a quilt out of old jeans

27. Design & make a baby quilt

28. Make silk square quilt

29. Make a crazy quilt

30. Make all my pillows (for pillow forms already bought)

31. Make a comforter for guest bedroom

32. Design & sew an apron

33. Sew a dress

34. Design & make a bathing suit

35. Make a bedskirt for master bed

36. Drop weight to 135 & maintain (unless preggers)

37. Run a 5k without stopping

38. Run a 5k in less than 30 minutes

39. Compete in a triathlon

40. Keep a food diary for one month

41. Create meal plans

42. Get my knees in better condition

43. Exercise at least three times per week for at least 30 minutes

44. Develop a stretching program and implement

45. Get an allergy test

46. Organize the movies/CD's closet

47. Organize recipe books & get rid of ones I don't use

48. Organize the laundry room storage

49. Organize jacuzzi chemicals

50. Organize closet in gym

51. Organize food storage

52. Back up the computer on an external hard drive

53. Hand wash all needed clothes monthly

54. Mend all clothing within one month of discovery

55. Sell my Zen

56. Buy an iPod

57. Download songs/pictures/movies to iPod

58. Increase food storage by 50%

59. Have zero debt

60. visit teach every month

61. Attend the temple 6 times

62. Have an up-to-date 72 hour kit for each member of the family

63. Take a video of everything in the house (for insurance purposes)

64. Invite friends/family for dinner at least ten times

65. Call all family & friends on their birthday

66. Send more cards

67. Send at least 6 thinking of you cards

68. Go through my closet twice & donate clothes/shoes to D.I.

69. Go to the Arizona Hot Springs

70. Go on a picnic

71. Go to Washington D.C.

72. Go to San Diego at least three times

73. Go river rafting

74. Go to 3 new places

75. Take a hot air balloon ride

76. Plan a date with Rhett monthly

77. Paint pottery at a "make-your-own-pottery" place

78. Get pregnant

79. Have a baby

80. Read to my future child daily

81. Change the current office in to a nursery

82. Change the current living room in to an office

83. Study up on nutrition

84. Learn more about herbs, test them out, and keep a log of their affects

85. Take a sewing class

86. Take a cooking class

87. Learn to make bread

88. Learn how to swim faster (hire an instructor)

89. Build a snowman

90. Make a new recipe/dinner once a month

91. Make a birthday calendar of family and friends

92. Create a scenic calendar with pictures I've taken

93. Create a daily quote calendar

95. Pamper myself with at least two facials

96. Pamper myself with at least two massages

97. Start a garden and produce at least one edible item

98. Send out a Christmas card/picture/letter at least once

99. Participate in a Santa run

100. Start a club and meet regularly

101. ***Personal***

The Older I Get...

the more changes I'm seeing myself go through. I'm not talking about physical changes (although those are happening as well). I'm speaking of the maturing process that is constantly going on in all of us (some more than others). For some reason I've been thinking a lot lately of how much I've changed (and grown) over the years and how much I enjoy seeing these changes. Take a step outside of yourself for a little bit and take a look at yourself. How have you changed in the last few years? Do you like the changes you've made? I've always enjoyed change, but the last few months I'm realizing the importance of change. Are we constantly trying to better ourselves? How? Most people want to be better than they currently are. But wanting it and striving for it are two totally different concepts. What are we actually doing to become the person we want to become? I WANT to be healthier. But what does healthier entail? Working out? Eating better? I'm the type of person that not only has to make a goal to work out and eat better, but to actually make a goal to sit down and figure out HOW to work out and HOW to eat better. The last month I've spent many hours researching nutrition and trying to figure out what works best for my body and although I'm still light years from being a health guru, it's helped me to understand that as long as I'm going in the right direction...I'll finally get there. And I think that's all we need to commit to. To head in the right direction. For whatever goal you would like to attain.

Now I hope you don't think I'm on a soap box about all of this. Everyone is free to choose their own path in life. And another thing I've learned over the years is to judge less and accept more. This post was more for me...to get some of my thoughts out.

Loving Consciously

I wish I could take credit for the words of wisdom below. I stumbled across this article/blog and I thought it was just amazing. It seems that lately I've had many friends/family/co-workers who have been struggling to keep their marriage alive. Many of them are at the point of getting divorced or deciding if divorce is the right answer. I think the below article should be handed to couples getting married as a type of guide book. I know that many of the techniques work well for Rhett and me and hope that someone reading this blog might be helped by it. It's a long one, but oh so good.

“The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.” -Gilbert Chesterton

Knowing how someone wants to be loved and then providing that love are two separate things. Sometimes marriages and other relationships end because either one person does not understand how to meet the needs of the other; or one partner refuses to meet the needs of the other.
To love consciously is a choice. Mary Beth and I often say being married is very similar to having another full-time job – you get out of it what you put into it.
Our marriage is like a savings account. My wife and I make deposits into it never expecting we may need to make a withdrawal. However, when we do request a withdrawal there are no associated penalties.
Yes, we argue over the temperature in the car or who really forgot to feed the dog, but when it really matters; when it really counts, we make the consciousness choice to give each other the love that is requested and needed.
With over 23 years of marriage under our belts, we have found the following strategies work best to love intentionally; to love authentically and to love consciously.

Show Appreciation
A simple “thank you” in response to a trivial or ordinary item can make a significant difference. It only takes a few short moments to utter these two words, but the impact can be felt for a very long time.
Showing gratitude is also the best strategy for ensuring the things you are most grateful for continue to happen. When we stop and tell our partners what we are grateful for, we are also telling the Universe. By making the effort, the conscious decision, to express our thanks we are in a better position of receiving more of it in the future.
If you want your partner to be grateful, it starts by you showing gratitude, first.

Be Happy, Not Right
Here’s a question for you, “Would you rather be right, or happy?” Too often our pride and egos can keep us from enjoying intimate relationships. We stew over what we think are injustices, but are perhaps only misunderstandings.
We carry grudges and do not show enough grace, passion or forgiveness to the person we care most about. Our need to be right can overshadow our need to receive, and give, love.
Take a look at what your pride is costing you. If intimacy is strained and the relationship is off track you may want to reconsider the value of your anger or self righteousness. Here’s the thing: You may be right in the argument although you partner thinks otherwise, but you will never be wrong when you put your partner first. Happiness always feels better than vindication.

No Day But Today
What would you say to your partner if you knew this was the last day you would be together? Would you complain about the television being too loud, or would you remind your partner of their value and significance?
Life does have an expiration date. This isn’t meant to be a downer – just a reality we all share. It’s what you do with this information that will make the difference. While it’s very difficult to sustain a high-level of connection and passion on a day-to-day basis, there are some simple things you can do to convey your partner’s importance to let them know they are important today:

*Kiss your mate at least twice a day
*Leave a quick note just to say “hi,” or “I love you”
*Never do anything you wouldn’t want your partner to know
*Be fully present when they need to talk or share something important
*Make the effort to spend some time together each day
*Give a compliment
*Make your partner feel important
*Smile
*No Judgments

Judgments are often times rooted in perception, not reality. Judgments are also a piece of how you see the world, not the way the world, or in this case your partner, actually exists.
The harm with judgments is resentment and anger are typically the outcomes – not the change that is expected. When a judgment is made, there is an implied belief the behavior or trait being judged should be corrected. However, the person receiving the judgment does not always share the same expectation.
As a result, communication is impaired, connection is deteriorated and conflict ensues. To love deliberately and consciously requires loving your partner with a different filter – a cleaner filter that does not have the residue of past containments.

Be Aware of Your Own Thoughts & Feelings
Loving authentically is dependent on loving yourself, first. Before you share love, and share yourself with someone, it is important to beware of what you want. Reality suggests, however, we fall in love and begin relationships before we have a clear idea of our own true feelings.
When this happens, there is still plenty of time to discover your needs – this is called growth. Give yourself opportunities outside of the relationship. Build friendships and pursue interests on your own.
A good relationship exists when both people can live without the other, but choose to be together. A relationship built on a foundation of sharing different interests cultivates more life and depth into it.
You own your thoughts and feelings. These make you unique and keep you grounded with who you really are or growing to become. By doing so, you are in a much better position to love freely and honestly. Nature has a way of taking care of those things we put the most energy in and want to grow even stronger.

Loving Consciously
The power of love extends its reach when we will love intentionally. Real love, authentic love, springs to life and is sustained when we make the choice to feed it with our deliberate passion. Our souls are nourished when our partners realize we know how to love them.
There will be a day when I no longer share this life with my wife. When that day arrives, my hope is she will know my intent was to discover exactly what she wanted and my conscious choice was to give her more of that.

Corkscrew Canyon

For YEARS I have been wanting to go to Page, Arizona to take pictures of Corkscrew Canyon. I've seen it in music videos and professional photographs and I was so excited when Rhett suggested that we go there for a couple of days while I was off work.  We stopped at the Big Water visitor's center on our way in to town and got some information on where to go and other sites to see. It was too late in the day to go to Corkscrew Canyon, so we headed to Horseshoe Bend. That was a really pretty place and definitely recommend it as well. While we were there we met a professional photographer who gave us some tips on which canyon to go to. Corkscrew Canyon is actually Antelope Canyon and there are two different locations. There's upper and lower Antelope Canyon and I was torn on which one to go to. After speaking with him we decided that the lower canyon was more of what we were looking for and I'm SO glad that we met him and took his advise. I took over 300 photos and only stopped because my camera battery died. We were in there for three hours admiring the majestic canyon walls. The colors and rock formations were breath-taking. I HIGHLY recommend this trip to everyone. 

Sewing Projects

The last four weekends I have dedicated myself to learn as much sewing as possible. I enrolled in the basic sewing class in the Fashion Design program at UNLV and have had a ton of fun cramming as much information as possible in to my head. Know, I already knew how to sew the basics. So I was hoping this class would delve into more of what I wanted to learn. Although the projects were very basic, she taught us to tailor them however we wanted. So rather than a t-shirt, I asked her to teach me how to do a collar. And instead of a skirt with elastic, I learned how to sew darts and a zipper. Neither of them are AMAZING...but I think they're pretty good for my first projects. Right now I feel like with enough practice I could make anything. Which I guess is true of just about everything. I also made some ducky pajama pants, but I didn't tailor those at all...just your basic oversized pj's.

FAST

My mom calls me many times throughout the week. It's usually around 7:45 am while she's on her way to work. If I'm busy at work I'll usually call her back and if I have a minute we'll chit chat until she arrives at her destination. I noticed this morning that I missed a call from her, so I called her back and was shocked when she switched phones and started speaking in a low voice. I knew it was something important and something that she didn't want anyone else at her work hearing. My heart kind of skipped a beat--fearing something had happened to someone. She then started out talking about having a family fast this weekend---my heart really started beating faster. I was scared that my dad was doing worse than he lets on or something had happened to my grandparents. Then she finished the thought by asking if I would be okay with the family fasting for Rhett and me this weekend. Huh? I have to admit, I was a bit shocked. Okay, I was REALLY shocked. I don't know if it's the fact that the whole getting pregnant thing has been out of our control or if it's more of an affirmation that there's a problem, but it kinda makes me sad. I should be happy that we're enlisting the help of the Lord in this matter, but for whatever reason I'm kinda freaked out. To have that many people fasting and praying for me seems crazy. I feel like there are so many other people who need the help more than we do. But I'm also very humbled that she (and my mother-in-law as well) were inspired to suggest it. So since all of my blogger friends are LDS, I ask that if you feel so inclined, fast and pray with us this Saturday-Sunday. I don't even really know what to pray for. Is that strange? I obviously want to get pregnant, but maybe that's not in the cards for me. So then would I be asking for that in vain? Perhaps I need to ask for inspiration...whether to adopt or see a specialist or change my diet? I feel completely overwhelmed at this point. And to know that so many people are going to be fasting and praying and thinking about it kinda puts a little more pressure on to get pregnant. But I obviously would have done that by now if I could. I would appreciate any thoughts that any of you might have to offer.

American Heart Association

This Saturday, October 11 I'll be participating in a 5K fun walk to raise money for the American Heart Association to help fight the nation's leading causes of death. Step out against heart disease and stroke by supporting my efforts. Please make a donation so I can reach my walker dollar goal. This is going to be a family event with face painters, a bounce house, and educational areas. If you're looking for something fun to do this Saturday at 9 am you're welcome to join me for the walk. It's at Mountain's Edge Park located at 9700 south Buffalo (at Blue Diamond) . Visit the link below if you have the inclination to donate. Thank you!

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